Kayastha Matrimony

Kayastha Matrimonial Traditions That You Should Know About

India is a land filled with a lot of traditions and ceremonies when it comes to weddings. The traditions and customs differ based on the community, religion and location. Kayastha matrimonial is one such wedding with unique traditions. They are a group of people who resides in Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh and Delhi. Let’s look at the Kayastha matrimonial traditions that you should know about. 

Lagan Ceremony

The Kayastha matrimonial commences with the Lagan ceremony. This is more like the engagement ceremony. The bride and groom’s families exchange the Lagan Patrika, a formal invitation to the wedding. They cover the Patrika with silver coconut, barley and betel nuts. The bride’s family will also send gifts and dresses to the groom. They will hand the gifts to the groom after performing the Ganesha puja.


After sending the Patrika will come the engagement ceremony. During this Kayastha matrimonial ceremony, the couples will exchange rings. This happens as a token of love for their upcoming Kayastha matrimonial. This ceremony usually takes place during the night time. After exchanging the rings the guests will have a feast. 

The elders of both families will fix an auspicious date and time for the Kayastha matrimonial. They will do this based on the horoscope matching of the bride and groom. This date goes on the wedding invitation and then relatives and friends will get it.

Bhat Nyotna

With this ceremony, the Kayastha matrimonial traditions commence. During this ceremony, the bride’s mother will go to the groom’s house to invite them to the wedding. Because it is a tradition not to go to the wedding without being invited. Meanwhile, the groom’s mother will also do the same by visiting the bride’s house. After this, they will exchange the wedding invitation cards. Then only they will give the invitations to relatives and friends. 


This is nothing but the Haldi ceremony in other traditions. The groom’s mother and other women from the family gather to perform this ceremony. They will prepare a paste which consists of chunri, tika and Nath. With these ingredients, the haldi paste is made and a portion of this is sent to the bride’s house. They will also sing songs during this Kayastha matrimonial ceremony. 

Tilak Ceremony

During this ceremony, the male members of the bride’s side will visit the groom’s house. The bride’s brother and other members will give gifts to the groom and his family. While other relatives will get clothes, the groom will get clothes and jewellery. Apart from this, there will also be many other gifts. After puja, the groom will get all his gifts.

Mehendi Ceremony

This is a fun-filled and most common ceremony in Indian weddings. During this ceremony, mostly female members of both families will be there. They will make beautiful mehendi designs on their hands and feet. People will book an experienced mehndi artist for their wedding to get their desired mehndi designs. Sometimes the groom will also get the Mehendi designs.


This ceremony takes place in the groom’s house. Five male members from the groom’s side perform this ceremony. They will build a mandap with bamboo sticks and hay. They decorate the mandap with banana stumps and mango leaves. A harish made up of wood is kept in the centre of the mandap. Every other Kayastha matrimonial ritual takes place in the mandap.


Before the groom and his procession leave for mandap, the groom’s mother performs a ritual. This Kayastha matrimonial ritual is called Paricchavan. She performs aarti and put tilak on the forehead of the groom. This is to ward off evil and bring good things to the groom. 


After Paricchavan comes the baarat in the Kayastha matrimonial ceremony. It is nothing but the groom and his procession leaving for the wedding venue. Before reaching the venue, they will go to a temple nearby to get the blessings. Once the baarat reaches the venue, the bride’s side will welcome them. They will show aarti to the groom and put tilak on his forehead. Then he will reach the mandap. 


Once the bride and groom reach the mandap, the Kayastha matrimonial takes place. The wedding takes begins when two priests perform puja and it place for the whole night. So the close relatives will stay behind for the wedding. The remaining people will leave for dinner. 


With this ceremony, the Kayastha matrimonial comes to an end. This is the most emotional ceremony of all the weddings. Because during this ceremony, the bride says goodbye to her family. After this, the couple leaves for the groom’s house. There the groom’s mother welcomes them with aarti. The bride has to kick a pot filled with rice before entering the house. This resembles that she is bringing prosperity with her to the family.

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